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What would you do if you were kidnapped by your narcissist? While Becky Erkkila @beckyerkkilaauthor had to ask herself that very question! Her book “What Shall I Do?” details her harrowing story about being bound, duct taped and abducted by her narcissist, making it out alive, and using her experience to help you decide that very question!

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Becky (Justine) shares her story of marrying a physical abuser who kidnaps, sexually assaults, and attempts to murder her as his final act of power and control. Becky (Justine) had just gotten out of an emotionally abusive relationship when she met her future ex-husband. The relationship moved quickly and they were married within the year. As the abuse began, Becky (Justine) didn’t know what to do. She believed in the vows of marriage, plus she didn’t want to quit and have two failed marriages so quickly, so she stayed and endured the abuse. And unfortunately for Becky (Justine), as soon as she began to take her power back, her abuser did everything he could to make sure that would never happen again.

In this deeply moving episode of Adam Allred's Podcast, Adam sits down with Becky Erkkila, a survivor whose journey through unimaginable trauma reveals the power of resilience and hope. Becky shares her harrowing experience of surviving an abusive marriage, a violent kidnapping, and years of domestic violence. Her candid story uncovers the complexities of abusive relationships, the difficulties of escaping toxic environments, and the enduring fight for freedom and safety. Becky opens up about the emotional struggles she faced while trying to protect her children and reclaim her life. Despite the overwhelming odds, she found strength through personal growth, faith, and the unwavering support of her family. Her story serves as a powerful reminder that healing is possible, even after life’s darkest moments. Throughout their conversation, Adam reflects on the meaning of forgiveness and the difficult journey of letting go of resentment. He emphasizes the importance of taking back control of one's life through inner strength and faith, offering insights into how forgiveness can become a transformative tool rather than a sign of weakness. Becky also discusses how she turned her pain into purpose by creating programs and writing a book to support domestic violence survivors and their loved ones. Her mission is to help others understand the hidden dynamics of abusive relationships while offering practical steps toward recovery and safety. Her work continues to inspire hope and ignite positive change for many facing similar struggles. This episode is a profound exploration of survival, resilience, and redemption. Becky’s story stands as a testament to the human spirit's ability to rise, rebuild, and thrive. If you or someone you know is affected by domestic violence, remember that help is available, and there is always hope.

My guest in this episode of Rock Bottom Syndicate is Becky Erkkila, Hospice Nurse, mother of 10, wife and author of "What Shall I Do?" We discuss her experiences of living with domestic violence and what she learned about herself and about being a victim of domestic violence. Becky's life today is devoted to helping others experiencing domestic violence and abuse recognize the signs, break the cycle and go on to live strong, joyous lives.

Becky Erkkila: I am married with 10 children. I have been a Hospice nurse for 8 years.  I am a thriving survivor of a traumatic domestic violence relationship. I share my story and the steps I have taken to become a thriving survivor. My intention is to give hope that life can truly be wonderful and happy even when we experience difficult situations.

Becky is also the author of What Shall I Do?—a compelling book where she bravely shares her journey to shed light on the domestic violence victim mentality. Drawing from her challenging experiences, Becky empowers readers to find clarity in difficult situations. Her message resonates with anyone seeking to uncover the truth about their circumstances, build the confidence to make life-changing decisions, or affirm their self-worth. At its core, her book helps readers answer the vital question: What shall I do?